We live in a world in constant stride for perfection. If you look at people from the outside most times, their lives look well arranged. There’s this dire need to make others think that we’ve got it all together and life is all good 24/7. Being honest though we all know that’s not true. But somehow, when we look from the outside we allow ourselves to believe that maybe they really do have a perfect life. And it becomes our goal to obtain that too. If you’re like me and have ever struggled with this, you know the attempt to obtain a life that goes according to plan rarely ever works and almost always leaves us unfulfilled and scrolling through Instagram, asking ourselves what we’re doing wrong. It’s a never-ending cycle of unfulfillment. I think a lot of that comes from social media but can definitely happen in our day to day interactions too.
Anyway, often in the pursuit of trying to appear like we’ve got it all together, we can forget that it’s so ok to ask for help and to admit that you are nowhere near perfection. That’s vulnerable though. Putting yourself out there and admitting that life doesn’t fit into an organized box means you open yourself up to judgement from anyone still hiding behind an idea of perfection. And so in this process, we so often tell ourselves that we’re fine. A saying that’s an occurring member of my vocabulary is “it’s fine, I’m fine.” Usually I’m laughing about something and use it as a joke, but I find deep down, that’s a truer realization behind those words.
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